Let's face it, no-one likes to be told no, but sometimes it's just the right thing for you even if you don't see it.
So you walk into the salon with a phone full of inspiration photos and are ready to be that beach blonde bombshell you've been dreaming of. Your stylist starts the consultation with you and very soon you realize she is telling you no! But why? What on earth would make her say no to you?
Let's go back a couple of years. You decided it was a fun idea to go as dark as you could with your haircolor. You and your friends spent the evening having a great time and getting you to the exact color black you wanted! Success! You've maintained it religiously with a haircut every now and again.
So you're in the chair and showing this baby blonde color in All your inspiration pictures and your stylist is talking about:
The integrity of your hair.
How this may take multiple sessions.
The treatments that will be necessary before we even start the color process.
The cost and time that will be required for the next year or so.
The strand test that's a must before they touch your hair with lighter and how the process may not even be possible dependent on the outcome of your strand test.
All you wanted is blonde hair, but your stylist has your best interest at heart. Believe me, she would rather you leave the salon with hair on your head than with it broken off and on the floor. But why? Well, when color is put on the hair, even if it is covered with another, it's technically still there. So those 2 years of black color you've put on your hair is there until it grows out. As a stylist, our job is to make sure your hair is several things, what you want, pretty, and most importantly not damaged beyond repair.
You may be one of the lucky one's that the strand test comes out fine and the process to lightening you is only a few appointments. You may be one who unfortunately will need many treatments to repair some damage before the process even starts.
My best advice is similar to what you may do with a physician. Get a second opinion if you don't like the first answer, but always keep in mind, just because you're being told Yes, doesn't mean it's the right thing for your hair!
As a stylist, I will always be upfront and honest with you. I have learned over the years not to do something just because someone wants it done. I've learned it's ok to say no to projects I don't feel confident doing and it's even better to say no when I 100% think it's not the right thing to do. No amount of money can make up for a beautiful young woman sitting in a chair with her hair melting and breaking, and believe me, it happens!
So if you hear the word no from me, know it comes from my heart and desire to make the best decision for you.
Until next time,
Tammie